Feld, in The First Seven Years, finds that he has to let go of several of his own issues to
allow his daughter to undergo her own growth and learning.
best education, the best man, the perfect life. He believes that ,as a farther, he can make
her life perfect simply by telling her the necessities of life. However, after several
incidences Feld understands that he must learn to let go. He discovers that he must let go
of sending her to college, "He had begged her to go.." he had to let go of the fact that
Miriam would not marry the perfect man. "Let her marry an educated man and live a
called ugly was not Sobel, but Miriam’s life if she married him." When Feld explains to the
readers that Miriam is always reminded him that she wants freedom, he is revealing to the
reader that he is growing and beginning to understand that he has to let go so, Miriam is
free to live her life, and make her own mistakes.
labor- all these dreams of a better life were dead." Everyone has their own way of dealing
that someday his daughter would marry a refuge shoemaker. "He felt for his daughter a
granting himself a certain peace and understanding for the situation. "’Don’t ask her for
Equally important, if not more important, is what Feld discovers in the end. He
has actually learned a lesson that he has been missing his whole life and had never even
noticed it was missing. Feld realized that he could not live his dreams through the life of
behind his constant pushing for Miriam to have a better life, he is not satisfied with
pushes his dreams to Miraim, and the life he wishes for he is really the life he never had
but always wanted. "..and had in her life no more than her mother had had." Again, Feld
is showing us the disappointment he has in his own life, but learning from it ever so
slowly. Feld was learning that his dreams belong to him, and that Miriam and Sobel have
their own dreams.
As a result of all Feld has experienced he has grown and understood a small
portion of his life. He had learned from the experience of being a farther; he learned from
what he can not change. He learns not to push his life to others. Feld changes in so many
ways, it is remarkable the lessons that Feld has learned, and yet Feld has so much more to
discover about his own life.