Lust and love
It is ironic how love and lust are so much related to each other yet very much different. Well for one thing they don?t have the same purpose. A person in lust may greedily hunger for sensual or sexual pleasure while a person in love sees beyond physical and simply take it as the part of the package that makes the person special. Certainly, love sound so much more decent and conservative, but doesn?t love sometimes start with lust? You get drawn to the person?s physical attributes in which you start checking out what lovely eyes, ass, legs she has or maybe you get tantalized by his husky bedroom voice that could raise gooseflesh out of you anyday, anytime and talk you into anything. The feel of his skin, the caress of his smile, the way his voice cuddles like a baby asking for a hug, this makes him absolutely irresistable. This catches you, you simply cannot go through an hour without remembering last night?s conversation and how fine he looked as he stared deeply into your eyes. You start yearning for regular get together, nightly chats even if sometimes chatting does not mean a conversation but simply holding the telephone and hearing him breathe. Then one day you?re suddenly hooked. You realize that you just cannot do without him like a caffeine addict cannot do without coffee. Then you get to know him better. As you do so, you slowly see pass through what first attracted him to you. As your conversation deepens you realize that your heated discussion on philosophy and shared interest on the same kind of activity like, lets say, rock climbing, proves to be as stimulating and spine-tingling as your usual smooth talking t?te-?-t?te. You find this so interestingly sexy, until little by little you start falling?in love.
What exactly is my point? The point is it is sometimes hard to distinguish love from lust. Lust might end up with love the same way that love might turn out to be lust. So what is lust and what is love? Is it simply a state of mind, just like all the rest of the emotion, feelings and states in this world? Simply in the eye of the beholder, determined by how one perceives the relationship to be? Or is it in the depth of the relationship taking the notion that lust means shallow and love means deep?
I might be blabbering about nonsense, or you might agree with me word for word but no one can deny that loving and lusting is very real. It is as real as you and me and at some point and time in our lives we will encounter it and then start questioning ourselves about it.
Lust might sound a very sinful word, since it is against many religion to fall prey to it. But lust could mean a lot of different things; infatuation can be a form of lust as well as idolatry (in plain language: worshiping a movie star or any gorgeous, famous or rich, unattainable piece of meat) and even a plain ol? crush can be. We don?t realize it but we might be actually dong it. But also, as I have said, its definition is relative and can vary differently from how one sees it. And what about love? Anybody can probably attest what love is with all the things million thinamajigs written about it, may it be in a song, story, poem or essay form. A very poplar topic, it seems. But why isn?t there anything written about how to tell lust from love? Isn?t there supposed to be guide book on rules were to draw the line?
Why am I asking now? Maybe because later on, it might be too late for me to see through the thin line between love and lust.