The Three Part Assertion Method
There is a guy two doors down from me, here in the dorm – a nice guy, a
kinds of music, and I have been known to play it loud from time to time. Well,
this guy truly likes all kinds of music, and plays it as loud as his speakers
hippie music tossed in, in no certain order. It’s a classic scenario.
Over and over in my mind I envision myself going down there, screaming
haven’t done this yet, and probably won’t. While reading the Bolton chapter,
this scenario replayed itself over and over in my mind. Here is my revised
strategy, which might just be used if the guy bothers me again. “When you leave
your door open, I can hear your music in my room which makes if difficult for me
enjoy it, but please don’t force others to ‘enjoy’ it with you. I noticed that
when your door is closed, I can no longer hear it in my room and there is no
problem. Thanks! So, what exactly are playing there? I have this great
game..” The first sentence of this quote uses Bolton’s tactic. The feeling
part, hostility and frustration, of it is implied. The last part implies that I
intend to remain friendly and hold no grudges.
To be consistent with the project objectives, I will briefly explain a
years ago, at the age of 19, I worked at a local Western Sizzlin in Harrisburg
as a waiter. I was one of the best servers there and made out well in tips.
I had my side down cold. The cooks, not a chance.
One morning, things were busy and the cooks were especially bad. People
what was wrong. Raph, the manager, was helping out in the crisis. He told me
“That’s BULLSHIT, Raph!” He stopped and looked at me, confused, angry, and more
concerned about the situation. He said half a word, turned around, and things
did actually improve for the moment. Raph knew that my main interest was for
service possible. I believe maybe that’s why he stopped his retort and realized
that I wasn’t attacking him. I loved the guy, he knew it. In this case,
perhaps the three point method should have followed later, after things had
calmed down. I did apologize for yelling, but did not explain it. “Raph, I
love working here, but lately the kitchen has not been doing an acceptable job.
T his frustrates me and makes me want to quit. It is not possible for me to
give the quality of service that these paying customers deserve when the food
staff, not because I didn’t like the job itself or the customers. I still miss