Most child and adolescent psychiatrists recognize that the ideal environment for raising a small child is in the home with parents and family. Intimate daily direct parental care of infants for the first several months of life is particularly important. Since the ideal environment often is not available, the role of day care, especially in the first few years of the child’s life, needs to be considered. Some experts recommend a minimum of six or more months leave for parents. All agree that when day care is used, the quantity and quality of the day care are significant in the child’s development.
More adults per child than older children require.
A lot of individual attention.
The same caregiver(s) over a long period.
A caregiver who will play and talk with them, smile with them, praise hem for their achievements, and enjoy them.
Parents should seek a caregiver who is self-confident, affectionate and comfortable with the children. The caregiver should be able to encourage social skills and positive behavior, and set limits on negative ones. Parents should be sensitive to the caregiver’s capacity to relate to children of different ages. Some individuals can work well only with children at a specific stage of development.
It is wise for parents to find out how long the individual plans to work in this day care job. High turnover of individuals, several turnovers, or any turnover at critical points of development, can distress the child. If parents begin to think or feel the day care they have chosen is unsatisfactory, they should change caregivers.
Many children, particularly after the age of three, benefit from good group day care, where they can have fun and learn how to interact with others. Child and adolescent psychiatrists suggest that parents seek day care services with:
The same day care staff for a long period of time.
Space to move indoors and out.
Enough teachers and assistants–ideally, at least one for every five (or fewer) children.
If the child seems afraid to go to day care, parents should introduce the new environment gradually: at first, the mother or father can go along, staying nearby while the child plays. The parent and child can stay for a longer period each day until the child wants to become part of the group.
Though parents may worry about how the child will do, they should show pleasure in helping their child succeed. If the child shows unusual or persistent terror about leaving home, parents should discuss it with their pediatrician.
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