The Only Child
them as self – centered, attention seeking, dependent, and temperamental. Despite these
determine the advantages of being an only child.
Only children, like first – borns, generally have been found to score slightly higher
on measures of intelligence than younger siblings. Also, first – borns, last – borns, and
centered or spoiled than a child with siblings. (Newman, 19) Only children are generally
relationships with siblings can be doubtful, many only children fantasize about what
having a sibling might be like. Only children also have very strong ideas about what
siblings could be, everything from associates to role models. Clearly, only children come
Being an only child can have many advantages and disadvantages.
to be considerate and protective of their child s feelings. Not only do they not want their
child to come to harm, they themselves to do not want to be the source of injury to their
child. (Sifford, 64) This causes the parents to constantly be on the child s back. Always
Also, being an only child is a disadvantage in terms that they might not always want to
talk to their mom and dad. There are some things that an only child can not talk to their
parents about and feel the need to have someone else there to talk to. Only children tend
to take hurts deeply to heart and hold on to them for a long time. For example, when
thinking about a difficult time still makes them angry. They also may be private and
protective of vulnerable feelings and may not want to discuss certain situations.
(McGrath ,97)In spite of all the disadvantages an only child might have, only children
have many advantages as well.
Only children that do not have to share love and attention from parents brings a
are not constantly taken away by siblings, only children find it easier to share with others.
Other studies have confirmed that having an increased exposure to the adult world, only
children have more comprehensive vocabularies and tend to mature earlier because of
this exposure. (Sifford, 73) Since only children are often alone, they are usually
searching for playmates and use toys and play things to attract others to play with them,
actually creating a personality that loves to share. The extra attention the only child
Later on in life, as a whole, only children do tend to achieve more. There are many
exposed to, will have an affect on that child. A child learns from everything around
them not just from their home environment. If a child is loved and feels warm and
secure, it just doesn t matter.
Every child is different in their owns ways. A person or child s personality
depends on the environment that surrounds them. Any child, whether a child with
siblings or an only child needs to be loved and feel secure. So is being an only child
really a disadvantage? Well, there are no major differences between only children and
others. If anything only children come out looking better than others their age with
regards to intelligence, achievement, and relations with adults. They are, on average, no
more unstable or self – centered than any other children. So being an only child can be a
environment. There are many factors that must be considered before judging whether
child may feel that it is a disadvantage, and others may feel that it is an advantage, but
selfish, lonely, insecure, spoiled, possessive, bossy, cautious, dependent, and unusual.
cooperative, adventurous, independent, and normal.