juvenile detention, and how he eventually made it into the Air Force. He was a defiant,
rebellious boy who, despite his background and personality, managed to endear himself
adolescents have gone to over come the unmentionable hardships of and abusive family.
The three most valuable things I have learned from this book are very hard to
general. The first one has to be, Dave was very tactful in how he handled his thoughts and
feelings. Many children his age are running around chasing girls and hanging with the
guys. Not him he was studying hard and trying to be better than his parents were. He
and that includes his life. The second thing that was useful was how Dave was never
would just go with the flow and never bat an eye lash. The third most valuable thing has
to be his willingness to help. I would think that since no one would help him he would
not help anyone else. On the contrary, Dave was always helping with chores, making
dinner, and doing little extra things he didn?t have to do. I later found out through reading
the book that Dave?s willingness to help stems from his need to feel loved and wanted.
I can honestly say that I could never have gone through the painstaking trials and
that and Dave is that special person.
target Dave and blame him for any and all bad things that happened. His mother was and
both extremes of things but there are a few instance with in the book which shows both.
For example Dave?s mother would make him do all the chores and never was aloud to
play. For some reason even if Dave finished what he was told to do in the time he was
told to do it he would not be fed or worse he would be part of his mother ?Games and
head strait a head for up to 36 hours at a time no food, bathroom, shower or other needs to
live. Dave was saved from this horror when he was 15 but he was in foster care and the
what he had endured at his mothers house.
Dave in his teen years was for the most part a very well behaved boy. He was
working hard in school and kept to himself for the most part. Although Dave did have a
small problem he like to take things with out asking or stealing. Dave?s stealing habits
stem from his basic survival needs that he instinctively put up when his mother would
make him go with out food, water, and basic sanitation. Dave at times would also lash
out at his foster families so that they would not get to close to him. In some cases when
Dave would lash out he would be put into another foster home and have to readjust to
things again. Dave usually liked to lash out he thought he didn?t need anyone just himself.
He could handle himself since he could handle his mother ?Games and Tests?. Dave?s
being a normal teen trying find himself in a world that had not found him for almost 12
mother treat me like I am a piece of *censored*? Dave?s depression stemmed from he long ours
of being with himself. He had many hours, day, months, and years to think about what he
Dave thought the main reason his mother didn?t like him and his father wouldn?t talk to
him any more that he had failed as a son. Not till Dave was in foster care and his foster
parents brought him to a therapist did Dave realize what had happened to him was to his
His father ignored him to please his wife (Dave?s mother). His father also started drinking
to drowned his sorrows.
You would think that since Dave was so brutally abused and his own mother
did to me and I had to change homes 7 different times and had kids picking on me cause I
smelled or I didn?t have a real mom or dad I would want to kill myself. Not Dave, he only
worked harder to live and please anyone including his mother so that in hopes she would
stop this unlawful actions against him. Not once did Dave even want to end his life
instead of thinking negatively he would say ?When I get older and out of here, I will be a
house always held his dad on a pedestal. No mater what happened Dave?s dad was
Superman to him. Dave would think of flying away with his dad to a better place where
he would be a person not just a ?Child called ?It? (Peltzers first book). Dave also vowed
that if her were to kill himself that he would only be surrendering to him mothers wishes
and even though he tired to please his mother that is the one thing he would not let her
have was his well deserved life.
The way Dave?s mother treated him is shocking. There was one way that Dave?s
mother had complete control over him and that was what he could and couldn?t eat. Most
of the time Dave was not permitted to eat. When Dave went to school he would steal
other kids lunches so that he could eat food that was not spoiled. Dave did get in trouble
for this sever times. After the third time Dave?s mother made him run home faster than all
the other children and vomit in to the toilet to see if he had stolen. Dave?s mother would
some make him eat rotten pork and chicken one every 3 weeks that is the only food he
would get and if Dave purged he would have another ?Game and Test? to do for his
mother. Dave had become so good at hiding what he had ate that he would vomit before
he left school so that he could at least enjoy his home or at least what home he had. Dave
at times would try to steal food that his brothers didn?t eat but if he was caught he would
have to go in the tub of ice water or deal with the pneumonia and bleach combination in
the bathroom with no ventilation. When Dave made is way out of his mother house into
foster care. Dave would try to salvage food so that if by chance the foster family would
not let him eat he would be able to have food. If Dave was caught with the food he had
taken and his foster family went to talk to him he would go to the bathroom and vomit so
that he would please them.
I feel Dave Peltzer has been through an unimaginable childhood and adolescent
please those around him. I feel if anyone can over come what Dave has over come that
what he tells is accurate in the most scary way possible. Scary in a sense that anyone
poisoned, neglected, beaten, uprooted from him home at age 15, bounced from foster
home to foster home without having a real place to call home.
I think that this book addressed the real things that happen to a child of abuse. For
there initial home life to the bounce from foster care home to home. The real issue in the
book that child abuse is everywhere in every degree. Some are hidden ways such as
verbal and some are so extreme that a child has no where to turn but to the abuse itself.
This book more than anyone could imagine my anticipation?s and expectations
I would recommend this book and Dave Peltzer?s other two books. The main reason is
that the book describes Dave’s journey to find acceptance and a place to call home really touched
my soul. The tears I cry for all the kids out there that need a voice to be heard. Mrs. Gold is God
send She was Dave?s social worker she took the time to understand Dave?s story and be his voice
such as a YMCA or a foster family just to show at what lengths kids will go to be safe and saved.
“lost boy” Dave Peltzer 1996